Problem-solving makes most of your problems worse.
Three years ago, on one of my coach-training calls, a peer, the CEO of a family business, asked for support to solve his overwhelm. This was a practice session where we…
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Less than 12 weeks left in the year. Your strategies to hit your goals could make them harder to reach.
I woke up this morning with a pit in my stomach. I set a goal of holding two more workshops last month and I have set up only one so far. It…
The cost of working with a coach: it’s not the time and money
People think the cost of hiring a coach is the time or money. But I argue you can arrange those things if needed. We buy cars, go on vacations, and scroll social…
Before Radical Candor, you need an inner stance
The 5 Stages of Inquiry Before A Conversation
When smart problem solvers become the problem
The interpersonal blindspots that hold back high-performing teams
How to get things done without the suffering
I could have written the tweet above. After years of personal development work, I've realized something about how I show up to my work. It's not empowering. It’…
Leading highly-critical people
Highly critical people can be 'managed up' if you learn the art of leading. Highly critical people trigger me. I feel dumb, incompetent, and insignificant in their presence. Previously, I…
How not to blame your partner (even if you’re convinced they’re wrong)
In a TV interview, a famous South-Indian actress said, "I gave everything I could to my relationship." The subtext story is that they got a divorce because her husband…
If you win the right choice, you lose your autonomy
Looking back at my life, I've made many independent, bold decisions. At 21, I decided not to sit for the usual college job placements and emailed a startup CEO to…